Chapter 3 - Emotion

[Paul Terlemezian]

An EQ alternative (biological vs. logical)

Feel (emotion)

It starts with fear (Fear is smart - you have no plan)

"Our brain has evolved a bias to action, because action is how we learn" (page 54)

First-Step Plan

Shift your relationship to fear (page 57)

Anger (one plan) - make a second plan...(emotion reset)

Grief and Shame

Focus on growth (page 63) remember Rumi (“Yesterday I was clever, so I wanted to change the world. Today I am wise, so I am changing myself.”}

Pride - endure mockery and disrepute (page 65) - I cannot be loved by everyone, I can love everyone.

Dumb pride (dumb actions you would repeat)

Maverick gratitude - how you respond when you are thanked (page 67) - not like regular thanks (for doing what someone else values - but for fighting your fight) - someone else taking credit for what you did.

Emotion sees inward (the fix is dumb pride and maverick gratitude)